5 Tips To Help Deal With MOMMY GUILT

5 Tips To Help Deal With MOMMY GUILT

Having trouble letting go of your mommy guilt? Your situation is not unique. Almost every mother experiences this at some point. It was once even tweeted by the "Wonder Woman," Gal Gadot. Even though she has two daughters, she still experiences mom guilt from time to time. While the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton, says, "moms who don't struggle with mom-guilt are lying." Feelings of guilt may overpower you. Here are a few tips to help you handle a guilt-free mind.

Mom-Guilt, What is it?

Being a parent may make you feel like you're not doing enough. You can experience it any time, but some of the most common causes include returning to work after maternity leave, balancing household duties with parenting obligations, and feeling insecure about your parenting style.

A small amount of guilt is normal, but when you spend too much time stressing over the little things, you may lose sight of what's important.

However, unchecked guilt may encourage detrimental behavior and cause depression. Kicking that guilt to the curb should be your priority.

Forgive Yourself

If you want to let go of guilt, you need to stop whining about your decisions and circumstances. Make sure your guilt doesn't turn into shame as it may affect you emotionally, making you feel like you are a bad mom. Rather, consider what prompted you to make a particular decision. You may want to consider saying, "I made that choice because…." instead of saying, "I feel bad about...".

Seek Support

        Consider asking your partner if they can help out with chores not already on their list so that you may enjoy a bit of time to yourself.

        Get the help of babysitters or nanny to look after your baby and seek guidance from the wise.

        It is extremely difficult to cope with mom guilt if you cannot explain or share how you feel. People aren't minded readers, so it is important to express your feelings directly rather than assuming they will understand you.

        Both social time and time spent alone are beneficial to your mental health.

Avoid Critics

Social media platforms such as Facebook and Instagram have the potential to drive your emotions when you see others vacation, post their family photos, or share their recent promotions. You need to lift yourself when you scroll on social media for connection. However, if you consistently feel depressed after reading a post from someone or a group, it may be time for you to unfollow them.

Surround yourself with supportive people, and you may want to stay away from people who make you feel guilty or are judgmental. Just find a way to escape from the room if the critic begins to babble about your latest parenting mistake. At some point, it will dawn on the person.

Establish and Nurture Relationships

You may want to spend time with your partner as it helps maintain a strong emotional bond. Consider taking your baby for a stroll and spending time outdoors, shopping for baby clothes and planning family trips. Even if you don't have time for a regular family gathering, schedule some time each day to catch up with your partner and baby for a quick cuddle.

Seek Expert Help 

You might consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional when guilt wears you down and keeps you from enjoying life. Do your research and utilize your support system creatively. Consider connecting with an online or a local support group to seek guidance.

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